But this article have reawakened my courage. It causes me to renew those prayers, which, for some months, I have put up to God that He would be pleased to send me a daughter of Abraham to be my wife.â Part of me just wants to give up on marriage and get on with making my life as good as possible without a husband.â I think a lot of singles feel this way. A. Itâs important to note that my claim that God does have in mind a specific person for you to marry, Joe, is an inference from the general doctrine of divine providence ().On the view of divine providence which I find most biblical and philosophically coherent (namely, a view based on divine middle knowledge), God ⦠My husband does not have a relationship with Christ, so God is not the center of our marriage. ⦠If he refuses to meet with the counselor/pastor or mentor, go by yourself and get the help you need for yourself and your marriage. My parents had true love. The only time I believe in giving up on a marriage is when one of them dies, or if after their divorce one of them marries someone else, or if one of them continues involvement in a sin that makes the marriage impossible. 3. Yes, God Could Save Your Marriage, but that Doesn't Mean He Will. He answers my prayers. 1.) It was a good one, which made me a better person. Be Wary of Searching for Justification to Leave. God loves me and he meant for me to be born. One thing the enemy canât trouble me with is Godâs love for me, I know he loves me and these trials come to make me strong but I need Gods help so badly. But these 7 truths about marriage I never heard in church. God told Hosea to marry this prostitute as a visual lesson for all of Godâs people. God blessed the marriage relationship from the beginning (Genesis 1:27-28), and He clearly intended it to be one of mutual trust in and faithfulness to one another. I refuse to give up on what I know in my heart is right; however, my husband has lost hope in us. Around that same time, another single friend told me, âIt hurts to keep hoping. In applying myself to love my wife as Godâs daughter, God makes himself more real to me every day. My family and non-church friends have all told me to let her go and move on with my life. Many women (and men!) He leads a worldly lifestyle and goes out to drink and womanize. for a week of marriage we got a big problem that cause him for me kick out in his house and I just found out that my husband stop the certificate to release it broke my heart and I felt just got rape cause I was keeping my self to be virgin and only give it to a man I will marry. So, I am going to give you some answers to the test that some of you might not expect to see. But I know God does not want that for my marriage. It is terribly sad and painful to accept. To me a marriage is between God ⦠Over time, God began to heal my heart. Maximizing your eternal happiness is, because God said â this is really crucial, I think, of marriage â âRejoice in tribulation because tribulation works patience and patience works approvedness and approvedness works hope and this hope does not disappointâ (Romans 5:3â5). Thank you all for the encouragement to keep standing for my marriage. Living that way is a challenge when bills pile up, communication breaks down and youâre just plain irritated with your husband or wife. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.â Itâs easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world. I want to give you permission to say you want to leave a bad marriage. I wasnât giving up on my marriage. In a Christ-like spirit, both are to submit to one another (Ephesians 5:21). What does it matter if I want to be married if thatâs never going to happen? I am a 40 year-old, thin but curvy, educated, attractive white woman who treats everyone with kindness and is financially self-sufficient. That old belief that we should be able to fix the problems. My husband has cheated on me with several women. I decided to work on my own issues (there were plenty and still are some here and there that I am working on), and see what God does. They care about me and donât want to see me hurt anymore, but Iâve learned from the bible that we must find joy through suffering. That is what 1 Peter 3:1-4 is all about; living a life that is pleasing to GodâA life that reflects His nature to the world, and of course, to my husband. And yes it has been hard and there are times that I want to give up, but whenever I feel like that, God always gives me the strength to keep going. Jolene i have stumbled on this in search for answers to my marriage problems you have given me courage and strength.My husband lusts on all women.At first i thought it was a mere gave but it went on and on and now he can not keep his eyes off my maids.It is so disturbing that i want out now.I have talked ⦠Otherwise, I believe there is a chance to reconcile. Marriage is an other-centered union. I have been believing God for a miracle in my marriage restoration for almost two years. Listen to the praise offered by a well-traveled George Whitefield after observing carefully the marriage of Jonathon and Sarah Edwards: âA sweeter couple I have not yet seen. Because if you refuse to admit you want out, then there is no place for you to begin healing. If that counts as cruelty or abuse by my husband, sign me up ⦠He and I started to work on our ⦠response by Michael November 12th, 2014 at 9:58 am . God took care of me after my parentsâ divorce, and He can take care of your kids, too. When you want to give up on marriage, donât be paralyzed by fear â Take prayerful action. I spent most of my time with Christian people. However, if you want to leave our marriage, I cannot stop you, but as I said, I will not do anything to help you proceed with a divorce. To wives, Godâs instruction is to submit to their husbandsâ leadership (verse 22) and to respect their husbands (verse 33). If both spouses are living up to their biblical responsibilities, there will be joy and happiness in the marriage. He gives me His strength. Thatâs what I did when we came close to divorcing a number of years ago. Iâm stunned that my marriage might be over. Sometimes God does want you to stay in an abusive relationship depending on what kind of abuse it is. So I determined in my heart that if my marriage failed, it would be because my husband walked away, not me. He is a born again but backslidden ⦠On my article about how to cope when youâre unhappily married, a reader said she knows deep down that she should give up on her marriage, but she keeps hoping things will improve. In Matthew 7:7-8, Jesus said, âAsk and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Even through all of these changes, I canât allow myself to give up on my marriage. I donât want it to end. One word of caution, though: when we are completely and utterly miserable in our marriage, and we want to give up trying, quite often we look for reasons to leave. So I would appreciate your prayers for my marriage. That relationship made me believe even more in the goodness of God, but after breaking it I have so much less believe in Him. What is easily forgotten is that it takes two to make a marriage work. God showed me to learn of Godâs love, embrace it, and give to Steve the love that God gives to me. I know HE wants to bless my marriage, and wants to be the center of it. Scripture and my conscience tells me that divorce is wrong and not God's intention. God gives the reason for this marriage: âGo, take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom, for the land commits great whoredom by forsaking the Lord.â Hoseaâs marriage was a powerful picture of Godâs pursuit of ⦠There are days that I wonder if I just pack up and leave if he will come home and cheer that Iâve left. We only have control over one party to the marriageâ¦ourselves. Iâm still praying to God if He can give me my relationship back. As companions on the way of life, husband and wife can work together as a team, and learn to love one another more and more, so they can grow together in everything ⦠stay in loveless marriages or unhealthy relationships for years or even decades, hoping things will get better. Please agree with me for the restoration of my marriage! And if thatâs the case, more patience on your part is necessary. Thank you so much for the encouragement. It was in those first months that He asked me to wait and to see how He would redeem my heart and my marriage. One thing that I know is that God will never give up on me and my family. A Baptist preacher would not marry them in 1960. God expects me to be a biblical wife, even if my husband never embraces his godly role in our marriage. The more I invite God into my life and marriage, the more real He becomes to me. We spend time and energy and give up who we are and what we want in hopes of making the marriage work. I was told much about marriage. I thought I was not worthy of Godâs love and I should not had been born because of my parents being married before. Yes, there are good reasons to walk away, and I may have even been justified in doing so, but I knew God had other plans for me and for my marriage. I feel like the decision to remarry is between you and God. What can I do? Pray that God will give you the right words so your hubby hears the spirit of God. Which makes sense. As my attempt to encourage you, let me just offer that if God hasnât answered you directly that He wants you to remain single all your life, it seems likely that He still has marriage in mind for you. I know this is a fierce blow, but do your best to calmly ask your wife to give you a more in-depth answer as to why sheâs leaving you. I almost give up on my marriage, for 6 years now, I've tried my best to keep my marriage working through prayers and commitments, but my husband is still seem not ready for a change. I know itâs hard to wait, but I wouldnât give up on marriage ⦠When Should You Give Up on a Marriage? “As God unites us in the presence of our family and friends, I give you my firm commitment to be faithful and loyal to you, in sickness and in health, good times or bad, in sadness and in joy. I grew up in church. But there some things on the test I did not learn until marriage began. Instead, I was going to figure out how to fix my ⦠When I say giving up is not an option I first mean, giving up on Jesus and my salvation then secondly my marriage. God is not perfect, he also makes mistakes I believe. I married my husband in a civil wedding. He offers His perspective. How untrue. He has cursed my womb and says that he does not want to have any children with me. He gives me hope, conviction, encouragement and counsel. Some will say, I give up, I stick to my soap opera definition of love. He showed me that I could have hope and trust in Him, and over time, I was able to rebuild trust and hope with my husband. I do promise to love you unconditionally , to help you make your dreams come true and to respect and ⦠The main hurdle is: I live in Manhattan. 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